this is a true love story
chapter one (05/17/99),
everything started at new years eve 1998.
that night changed my life. around 7pm or somethin i was online chattin in some aol
us chat rooms called "30th romance". yeah, i know, for you it clearly looks like i
was searching for someone, but no, i wasn't. easy to understand: i am from germany
and looking for a girl in us chat rooms is kind of silly. anyhow, i chatted
with this guy and that girl, i answered all frequently asked sex/age questions, i
said hello to everyone coming and goodbye to everyone leaving. for me this was
brand new, i had started aol some few days ago, but it was fun.
for some reason i was hit by an instant message window saying "carsten,
how are you this pm., or am in germany?". i've never seen such a window before, but
answered next second. a girl was talking to me. nice chat. i remember every line
exactly, cause i saved the whole conversation to my harddrive. at the end she said
she would send a short mail next day or so and i said i'd be glad to hear from her
again. this was the very start of my first and only virtual relationship.
the promised mail arrived, i answered, she answered, i... to make a
beautiful long story short, we mailed each other more than 100 mails the first two
month, talked about 10 times on the phone and sent each other a few packages including
beside others some pics. having talked together almost every day, the first view of
the daily virtual chat partner was kind of strange. we knew a lot about each other,
but we haven't seen each other ever (no scanner at home that time). in general you
date someone relating first on view and then on character etc. our dates had been
completely vice versa. knowing the other ones feelings, sense of humor and points
of view before anything else is really a thing. no question, in my eyes she's the
most pretty girl i met ever.
it was late february when i flew over to the usa to meet her. lots of
bumble bees in my belly, i can tell you. there she was to pick me up at the airport.
a wonderful smiling beautiful girl. i hugged her and swirled her around like a merry
go round. we weren't telling the other, but we both had fallen in love immediately.
after only 11 days of excitement and pleasure, love and endless kisses i had to leave
back home. no need to tell how sad we felt at that moment. we both didn't know how we
would ever make it to continue our just started relationship.
3 weeks later she visited me here in germany. wow! we had some more than
wonderful days together, even if it had been only 7. again one had to leave and one
had to stay.
next visit will be september 1999, after a five month break. but - and
that's more important than everything else - we'll get together some time
soon. not pretty soon but within reach. no decision made who will move to whom, but being
close to each other some time next in future is no longer a dream.
chapter two (10/14/99),
oh boy. you wouldn't believe how wide one's able to smile seeing the long
missed love again. especially after a five month long break which was and will be the only
break that long in this wonderful relationship. not again - never.
really no need to tell you: we had the bestest time together. i visited my
love for three exceptionally rich flavoured weeks. all included - lots of travelling, skating
(of course), sightseeing and loving. travel pix will be shown on my "look" page after i got
my scanner back to work...
no question, we had our ups and downs meanwhile. beeing separated from your
loving partner for five month isn't easy to take. and i'm pretty sure: a less deep and
truthful love would have ended in a complete disaster. not with us. we managed to survive
our painful partition. it took a short while to get used to the long time desired missing
love again, but from that on it was almost as we had started all over again. wonderful!
plans to connect are getting more and more detailed. we're both quite sure,
moving together is the only option leading forward in our partnership. pretty much problems
to solve on our way to heaven, but we're both working hard to build our very own love nest
soon. and we're also sure who's moving to whom: my girl's crossing the ocean to be with me.
wow! can't tell you how good i feel being loved by her...
next meeting will take place around christmas here in germany. just three month
to wait - that's easy. we'll celebrate our first year anniversary at new years eve 1999,
isn't that a thing?!
chapter three (01/30/00),
my oh my - year 2000 started as good as 1999. maybe even better! my favourite
one arrived december 24th just in time for christmas celebration. we had some wonderful
relaxing days of love and passion, of pillow talks and breakfast laughs. and we celebrated
new years eve together. one year ago we met the very first time - on the internet, on aol,
in a chat room. now it was completely different from last year: same love peas sat here at
home together arm in arm, champagne to drink and kisses to spend quite a lot.
to shout out loud: yeah, she's my girl and i won't let her go ever. well,
to tell the truth: i was prepared for that special night. a friend of mine (hey inga) had
made some very unique rings and equipped with them i asked my girl to be mine forever.
what can i tell, she answered the only right answer possible! she said "yes", just
in case you didn't know...
march 24th will be the date she's moving to germany. life can be so exciting.
somehow it feels like i never knew before...
chapter four (09/07/00),
lots of stuff happened since i ended chapter three: my beloved one finally managed
to rent her house, sell her entire belongings, quit her job and move to germany. i had prepared
our short-term love nest (my old apartment) as much as possible to suit the needs of another
human being in there - poo. actually, our needs were not depending on the living situation that
much, they were more love based, if you know what i mean.
the start though was quite tough for everybody. "i'll never learn this fricken
language" was one of the nicer statements my cuty pie used to let me know at that time. just
everything was sooo different here.
well, as time flew by - and hey, it really flew - we moved into a nicer apartment
providing us with much more room, alex poked her head with german grammar and vocabulary (she's
much better now), i got a tiny little bit better speaking midwesty touched us-english and she
found a job - teaching english to germans.
and last but not least, our love grew and grew. it grew to a certain special
point, a point which made us desire to give our hearts the peace they always needed, the peace of
having found the one and only: september 1st of 2000 we got married. wooo-wow!
still, the path we went feels a bit unreal. still, our story sounds kinda unbelievable
even to ourselves. but, it's true. nothing else but just true. and ongoing to who knows where...
why am i telling you all that? you have already seen the movie "you've got
mail", have you? you've already experienced a relationship with a chat partner? well, i
won't tell you how to act and how to be. i'm just telling you how unbelievable amazing
life can be and i'm telling you not to give up hoping ever. it pays...